People tend to first try and meet their needs by using their ego traits. Either way, giving into the anger only further alienates us and cuts us off from the sense of love and value we wish to feel. That person can be ourselves, or it can be someone else.
At this level we feel like victims of an uncaring world, so we must be reminded that someone does care. We must challenge our inflated self image that swings between narcissistic grandeur and cosmic tragedy. We must reach out to other people and remember we aren't totally alone. We must face our own sense of powerlessness, though it is the last thing we wish to see. Reconnecting with our line to 6 is the path out. Deep down we still want to be loved and accepted as we are, we just feel it will never happen. When we sink this far it is absolutely critical we snap out of it as soon as possible. The Creator type becomes destructive and seeks to take from the world rather than generate value. Everything feels empty and we see no reason to care about morality, truthfulness, hard work, etc. Anger that love is not plentiful and easy to find. If it's bad enough, we cease thinking in terms of "how do I get love" and begin thinking "how do I ruin other people's love." This is an anger born from 9, rage against an uncaring universe that won't recognize our existence. We can crave omnipotent power and control where everyone is forced recognize our authority and grandiose image. Other people appear to get the rewards we deserve while putting in none of the work, and we may want to cut them down to size. Facing this can bring out a dark anger in unhealthy 3s and lead to regrettable behavior.Īt the lowest levels of 3 health, we can become vengeful and envious.
#ENNEAGRAM 3 DISINTEGRATION FULL#
Sadly, life is full of randomness and sometimes hard work simply doesn't pay off. if we just work hard enough we will get everything we seek. We want to believe the world works in a mechanical way where action directly translates into results, i.e. Down here we begin feeling a deep frustration with reality for not rewarding our efforts without fail. 9 is an anger type at heart, and 3s will learn why. Given enough time stuck in apathy and disillusionment, 3s can grow very, very, very angry. Otherwise, we might enter the lower rungs of 3>9 that are rarely mentioned. regain a sense of confidence and a motive to keep moving forward. take time to recover, because we do need it, and 2. Rather than face challenges and risk failure, we start avoiding difficult tasks altogether and tune out our inner drive to "do more."Īt this point it is crucial for 3s to 1. Down here we can get depressive and disillusioned to our goals, asking "why bother" if we feel we're getting nowhere. This stage often doesn't come until physical exhaustion forces us to break relentless forward motion. We get pulled under by our feelings finally and have to withdraw from other's eyes to process repressed emotions and recover from relentless activity. This is when the problems we put off in the first stage begin eating away at us. The next level of 3>9 is apathy and burn-out. This is how average 3s work also, putting off the hard questions by focusing on immediate tasks. while using perpetual motion to avoid facing hard internal problems. Not every 9 is physically lazy, some will haul ass externally to keep up with expectations, avoid trouble, etc. This also means that our successes are not rewarding since we aren't emotionally invested in our actions, which can lead to further disintegration.įor what it's worth, many 9s do this also. Through feeling disconnected from our own bodies, we can subject ourselves to abuse and feel fine. Oddly enough, we also dissociate from our actions. We feel in control of ourselves and forget our problems exist as long as we stay in motion. This is the stage where we don't know there's a problem usually. We numb ourselves internally to be unaffected by emotional problems and readily take on stress that would otherwise overwhelm us. In the average range we quickly move to take action and overpower our feelings with motor control and pushy gut energy. The first level of 3>9 that you usually see is a subtle dissociation from the emotional body. Now I know it's the source of my worst urges and behavior.
I didn't understand this disintegration point well until I accepted myself as a 3. There's a few levels of 3 disintegration to 9 to cover.
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